Girls.. help out..?

me and my girl just broke up after 1 yr and 6 months.. now i had no idea it was coming. i was just sittin at home and i woke up one morning and had a text message saying.. its over bye.. she was with another guy the next night and was holdin his hand in church the nextmorning.. i did hear that she kept pullin her hand away from him.. but she admitted that flirtin was going on.. she says she still loves me.. cares about me.. says nothing is up with this guy.. that he likes her but she doesnt think of him like that.. we went out to eat last night and it felt like we were dating.. but then it went to alot of crying on her part when i was leaving b/c i told her that i would ahve to move on if she didnt want me and that to do that i would have to cutt off all communication.. she wont let me go though.. but she doesnt want to date me.. confusing.. let me know!